Astonishing phenomenon!
The phenomenon of sex among teenagers today is very worrying. Preview permisifisme culture and rampant hedonism can be seen from the Synovate research results in four cities: Jakarta, Bandung, Medan and Surabaya (see Reuters, March 11, 2006).
Of the 450 respondents children aged 15-24 years we find an astonishing fact. Robby Susatyo-Manager-Director of Synovate data suggests the following:
1. Approximately 16% of teenagers in four cities that claim to have intercourse when aged between 13-15 years.
2. 44% of respondents claimed to begin to 'taste' of sex since the age of 16-18 years. Up here we can calculate that 50% of respondents claimed to have had sex when they are not yet legally separated baligh.
3. About 35% of respondents claim to know the sex of the first pornographic film. The rest claimed to know the sex of the experience of their peers.
4. 40% of respondents reported first having sex in their homes; 26% said he was happy to do it in a boarding house; 26% are happy to do it in a hotel room.
Very worrying. This is what happens to most teenagers. We do not know exactly the real facts; may be fewer in number, may also be greater.
The question is, what should we do? In my opinion, there is no other option but to try to enforce Islamic morality and high menjungjung. And for that every one of us should feel responsible to make it happen.
Islamic signs on the association
Islam is a religion of Shamil (thorough) and mutakamil (perfect). Noble religion is derived from God the Creator, the All-Knowing about the ins and outs of his creation. He revealed that Shari'a provisions lifelike peaceful and orderly.
Among the rules set by God Almighty for humans are the rules on how relationships between men and women. Here are the guidelines that must be observed by every Muslim in order to spare them from a disgraceful act of adultery:
First, every Muslim should keep his eyes from seeing the opposite sex to excess. In other words should be avoided eye view freely. Consider the following words of God, "Say to the believing men; let their gaze and guard his cock; so it is better for them ... Say to the believing women; let their gaze and guard his cock ..." ( QS. 24: 30-31).
Initial impulse is to look at lust. So keep the eyeball is to avoid deception syaithan. On this the Prophet said, "O Ali, thou shalt not iringkan one view (the woman who is not mahram) with another view, because of the view that first (halal) for you, but not the second!" (Narrated by Abu Daud).
Secondly, every Muslim should keep their private parts by Islamic dress to avoid libel. Specifically for women Allah says, "... and do not reveal their adornment, except the usual look of it. And let them put her veil cloth to her chest ... "(Surah 24: 31).
In another verse Allah says, "O Prophet, say to your wives and your daughters and the wives of the believers: 'Let them extend their veils all over their bodies." That is so they are more be known, so it is not disturbed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, infinite care. "(Surah 33: 59)
In terms of keeping the genitalia, the Prophet affirmed an etiquette that must be considered, he said: "Not allowed to see male private parts (genitals) of another man, so women should not see another female genitalia. And should not men berkumul with another man in a cloth, so a woman should not be berkemul with fellow women in a single fabric. "(Narrated by Muslim)
Third, do not do anything that can draw near to fornication (Surah 17: 32) such as seclusion (two-pair) with the opposite sex who is not mahram. The Prophet said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then do not retreat to a woman (without a mahram) because the three are actually syaithan (Narrated by Ahmad).
Fourth, stay away from the conversation or speech that can 'appetizing'. Referral of this case we find in the word of God, "O wives of the Prophet, you all are not like other women if you are pious. Then do not submit to the desire to talk to people who have the disease in his heart. And say words that doing good. "(Surah 33: 31)
With regard to women's voices Ibn Kathir states: "Women are prohibited from talking to strange men (non-mahram) with soft words as he spoke with her husband." (Tafsir Ibn Kathir, vol 3)
Fifth, avoid skin contact with the opposite sex, including shaking hands, as exemplified by the Prophet, "Actually I do not shake hands with women." (Narrated by Malik, Tirmidhi and Nasa'i).
In another statement stated, "the Prophet's hand never touched the woman who is not lawful for him." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
This is done Prophet of course to set an example to his people to take some remedial action as an effort to guard the heart of syaithan whisper. And Allaah knows best.
Besides the two above hadith of the Prophet there is a statement that such firm in this case, bekiau said: "One of you is better than the needle pierced his head with an iron rather than touching a woman who is not lawful for him." (Narrated by Tabaraani).
Sixth, should not do ikhtilat, the mingling between men and women in one place. This was disclosed Abu Asied, "the Prophet had come out of the mosque and then mixed men and women on the street, then he said:" Stand back you guys (women), not for you the middle of the road; part of you is the edge road (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
Besides Ibn Umar said, "The Messenger forbade men to walk between two women." (Narrated by Abu Daud).
From the above it is clear to us that men and women do have to keep the restrictions in the association. That would terhindarlah things that are unexpected.
But it seems the signs of this association has not been fully understood by most people. Because it's our responsibility to advise them properly. Of course we must start from ourselves respectively.
May Allah always guide us and keep him away from the moral turpitude and licentious acts. Amen.
The phenomenon of sex among teenagers today is very worrying. Preview permisifisme culture and rampant hedonism can be seen from the Synovate research results in four cities: Jakarta, Bandung, Medan and Surabaya (see Reuters, March 11, 2006).
Of the 450 respondents children aged 15-24 years we find an astonishing fact. Robby Susatyo-Manager-Director of Synovate data suggests the following:
1. Approximately 16% of teenagers in four cities that claim to have intercourse when aged between 13-15 years.
2. 44% of respondents claimed to begin to 'taste' of sex since the age of 16-18 years. Up here we can calculate that 50% of respondents claimed to have had sex when they are not yet legally separated baligh.
3. About 35% of respondents claim to know the sex of the first pornographic film. The rest claimed to know the sex of the experience of their peers.
4. 40% of respondents reported first having sex in their homes; 26% said he was happy to do it in a boarding house; 26% are happy to do it in a hotel room.
Very worrying. This is what happens to most teenagers. We do not know exactly the real facts; may be fewer in number, may also be greater.
The question is, what should we do? In my opinion, there is no other option but to try to enforce Islamic morality and high menjungjung. And for that every one of us should feel responsible to make it happen.
Islamic signs on the association
Islam is a religion of Shamil (thorough) and mutakamil (perfect). Noble religion is derived from God the Creator, the All-Knowing about the ins and outs of his creation. He revealed that Shari'a provisions lifelike peaceful and orderly.
Among the rules set by God Almighty for humans are the rules on how relationships between men and women. Here are the guidelines that must be observed by every Muslim in order to spare them from a disgraceful act of adultery:
First, every Muslim should keep his eyes from seeing the opposite sex to excess. In other words should be avoided eye view freely. Consider the following words of God, "Say to the believing men; let their gaze and guard his cock; so it is better for them ... Say to the believing women; let their gaze and guard his cock ..." ( QS. 24: 30-31).
Initial impulse is to look at lust. So keep the eyeball is to avoid deception syaithan. On this the Prophet said, "O Ali, thou shalt not iringkan one view (the woman who is not mahram) with another view, because of the view that first (halal) for you, but not the second!" (Narrated by Abu Daud).
Secondly, every Muslim should keep their private parts by Islamic dress to avoid libel. Specifically for women Allah says, "... and do not reveal their adornment, except the usual look of it. And let them put her veil cloth to her chest ... "(Surah 24: 31).
In another verse Allah says, "O Prophet, say to your wives and your daughters and the wives of the believers: 'Let them extend their veils all over their bodies." That is so they are more be known, so it is not disturbed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, infinite care. "(Surah 33: 59)
In terms of keeping the genitalia, the Prophet affirmed an etiquette that must be considered, he said: "Not allowed to see male private parts (genitals) of another man, so women should not see another female genitalia. And should not men berkumul with another man in a cloth, so a woman should not be berkemul with fellow women in a single fabric. "(Narrated by Muslim)
Third, do not do anything that can draw near to fornication (Surah 17: 32) such as seclusion (two-pair) with the opposite sex who is not mahram. The Prophet said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then do not retreat to a woman (without a mahram) because the three are actually syaithan (Narrated by Ahmad).
Fourth, stay away from the conversation or speech that can 'appetizing'. Referral of this case we find in the word of God, "O wives of the Prophet, you all are not like other women if you are pious. Then do not submit to the desire to talk to people who have the disease in his heart. And say words that doing good. "(Surah 33: 31)
With regard to women's voices Ibn Kathir states: "Women are prohibited from talking to strange men (non-mahram) with soft words as he spoke with her husband." (Tafsir Ibn Kathir, vol 3)
Fifth, avoid skin contact with the opposite sex, including shaking hands, as exemplified by the Prophet, "Actually I do not shake hands with women." (Narrated by Malik, Tirmidhi and Nasa'i).
In another statement stated, "the Prophet's hand never touched the woman who is not lawful for him." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
This is done Prophet of course to set an example to his people to take some remedial action as an effort to guard the heart of syaithan whisper. And Allaah knows best.
Besides the two above hadith of the Prophet there is a statement that such firm in this case, bekiau said: "One of you is better than the needle pierced his head with an iron rather than touching a woman who is not lawful for him." (Narrated by Tabaraani).
Sixth, should not do ikhtilat, the mingling between men and women in one place. This was disclosed Abu Asied, "the Prophet had come out of the mosque and then mixed men and women on the street, then he said:" Stand back you guys (women), not for you the middle of the road; part of you is the edge road (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
Besides Ibn Umar said, "The Messenger forbade men to walk between two women." (Narrated by Abu Daud).
From the above it is clear to us that men and women do have to keep the restrictions in the association. That would terhindarlah things that are unexpected.
But it seems the signs of this association has not been fully understood by most people. Because it's our responsibility to advise them properly. Of course we must start from ourselves respectively.
May Allah always guide us and keep him away from the moral turpitude and licentious acts. Amen.
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