To be made in choosing a wife

A lecturer told me that to find a woman not only in view of its beautiful just because not all beautiful women have a good nature good heart, as well as women who are ugly in appearance but has a good heart like a jewel.
We only see a person only from the outside but will not see from the women themselves in depth, whether or not a thing that did look good on the outside but it certainly also has a good well in it?. We just stuck by the sheer beauty, in butakan by a pretty face and has a beautiful curves will know the truth but whether he has.
3 main things we need to know that the beauty in the world is not eternal like what we yearn to be seen but the beauty from within is a beauty that will continue to be maintained until old age coupled with a sincere love and mutual delivered both had an understanding of the each other. 

The specialty of women

1. Prayer maqbul women more than men kerana loving nature that is stronger than men.When asked to Rasulallah s.a.w. to this, the king replied: "My mother is more compassionate than the father and the loving prayers will not be in vain."
2. Women who solehah (good) it's better than 1,000 people a pious man.
3. A woman solehah is better than 70 saints.
4. A woman solehah is better than the 70 pious men.
5. Anyone who is encouraging her daughter, rank is like people who cry sentiasa fear Allah swt kerana and those who feared God s.w.t. will be forbidden the Fire to the top of her.
6. Anyone who brings a gift (of food items into the home market and given to his family, then the reward as bersedakah. Let prefer girls than boys. If anyone is pleasing daughter as if she was freed children of Prophet Ismail a.s.
7. It is not a woman's menstruation, except haidhnya is kifarat (ransom) for his sins of the past, and if on the first day haidhnya read "Alhamdulillahi'alaa Kulli Halin Wa Astaghfirullah Praise be to Allah in all circumstances and I beg forgiveness of God from all sin. "; then God set him free from hell and easily through shiratul Mustaqim safe from seksa, even AllahTa'ala darjat lifted upward, as darjatnya 40 people die a martyr, if he always remembrance of Allah during haidhnya.
8. Women who lived with her children will stay with me (the Prophet) in syurga.
9. Whoever has three daughters or three sisters or two daughters or two sisters, then she acts ihsan in association with them and educate them with great sense of god-fearing and responsible, then for him Adala syurga.
10. Rather than Aisha r.ha. "Any person who is tested with anything rather than daughters, then he do good to them, then they will become a barrier to him than the fires of hell." 

My wife Characteristics of Shalehah

Shalihah woman (wife shalihah) is the Best and semulia - noble title given to a woman beloved of God. Title or that title is not just a name and pride, but he is the fruit of a long struggle in the life of a woman. Reminded the Muslim community, in order to guard against khadraauddiman, the beautiful woman who grew up in a bad place.
Many women long for that title, but very little until the goal is missed. Therefore, the long journey that must be taken by a woman necessitated by the steep road, winding, rocky, up hill and down the mountain, full of thistles and thorns. Think for a moment the leaders of women's life journey of Paradise, which is the best of women as the Prophet Prophet below.
The best of women is Maryam bint Imran and best of women is Khadijah bint Khuwailid. (Narrated by Bukhari, Muslim). Of Abu Musa ra. said: the Prophet said: The man with the perfect lot, but not so for women except Asiya wife of Pharaoh, and Maryam bint Imran. And indeed primacy over other women such as Aisha tsarid virtue (the oily side dish) for other food. (Narrated by Bukhari). The Prophet said: Fatima is a woman leader of Paradise. (Narrated by Bukhari).

Shalihah woman (wife shalihah) is the Best and semulia - noble title given to a woman beloved of God. Title or that title is not just a name and pride, but he is the fruit of a long struggle in the life of a woman. Reminded the Muslim community, in order to guard against khadraauddiman, the beautiful woman who grew up in a bad place.
Many women long for that title, but very little until the goal is missed. Therefore, the long journey that must be taken by a woman necessitated by the steep road, winding, rocky, up hill and down the mountain, full of thistles and thorns. Think for a moment the leaders of women's life journey of Paradise, which is the best of women as the Prophet Prophet below.
The best of women is Maryam bint Imran and best of women is Khadijah bint Khuwailid. (Narrated by Bukhari, Muslim). Of Abu Musa ra. said: the Prophet said: The man with the perfect lot, but not so for women except Asiya wife of Pharaoh, and Maryam bint Imran. And indeed primacy over other women such as Aisha tsarid virtue (the oily side dish) for other food. (Narrated by Bukhari). The Prophet said: Fatima is a woman leader of Paradise. (Narrated by Bukhari).

Obedience to the Husband Wife

For scholars and people who have learned the Shari'a on the marital relationship in Islam, the topic of husbands obedient wives it is not a new topic, "it was supposed to be that" there may be one of the comments if there discussing the issue of obedience of a wife to her husband .. . unfortunately many people do not realize that behind the Shari'a that God has determined there is a lot of knowledge and wisdom to be happy about and cheer the life of the world and bring salvation to live in the hereafter, Insha Allah. Sciences such as these are not just anyone get it, not even the clergy to get it because the science is only direzekikan from God to those who earnestly pursue ways. For example the science of prayer. The obligation of prayer and prayer is obligatory procedures known to all Muslims, but only a few people who use the science of prayer is to become closer to God, longing to God, and with the grace and mercy of God is processed so that people can pray prevent the shameful and unjust deeds.
There are several important points that need to be known by the Muslim on the issue of obedience to the husband, among others: 1. Position of women in Islam
Since the creation of man until the implementation of Shari'a in human life, God has given many indications that women and men are not equal:

My darling My wife

For the men we can not deny that we do want a wife who can make us calm in the run life activities of either working or not. Obedient wife to her husband is every man's dream because the man's wife is the most precious treasure, because with him is (wife) we face all persoalanan in this world, the wife is the place to pour out our grief we are experiencing, we are face it, who else we going to tell you all what we feel if not for our wives.
In addition to his wife did The real task is heavier in comparison with a man in which a wife should be able to keep the baby in order to grow and develop while a husband's duty to make a living, as long as the husband was earning a living then istrilah caring for a baby they both .

Wife shalehah

Sholehah wife will look at the catastrophic conditions, trials, tempest, and the crisis.
Sholehah wives love a man who married her.
Sholehah wife for her husband decorated and dressed up with deeds and words.
Sholehah wife is intelligent and stupid at the same time. Intelligently so that it can find the genius of her husband, and stupid so it does not know her husband's flaws and mistakes.
Sholehah wife receives her husband for the sake of gain stability, while stability to get their husbands receive

Characteristics of Women sholehah

Not many conditions imposed by Islam for a woman to receive a degree solehah, and so receive a full reward syurga pleasure of Allah Subhanahuwata'ala

They need only satisfy two conditions only, namely:
1. Obey Allah and His Apostle
2. Obedient to the husband

Here, among other details of the two conditions above:

The Wife Is Shalehah

Shalehah wife who is able to bring happiness in front of his eyes, even just with her eyes. A wife is expected to dig up anything that could improve his appearance, beautify the situation in front of my dear husband. Thus, the husband will feel peace when there with him.
 Getting shalehah wife is every man's dream. Because it has a shalehah wife better than the world and its contents. World''is the jewelry, fine jewelry and the best of the world is shalehah wife.''(Muslim and Ibn Majah).
 

Characteristics Wife sholehah

Sifat istri shalihah bisa kita rinci berikut ini berdasarkan dalil-dalil yang disebutkan setelahnya


1. Penuh kasih sayang, selalu kembali kepada suaminya dan mencari maafnya. Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda : “Maukah aku beritahukan kepada kalian, istri-istri kalian yang menjadi penghuni surga yaitu istri yang penuh kasih sayang, banyak anak, selalu kembali kepada suaminya. Di mana jika suaminya marah, dia mendatangi suaminya dan meletakkan tangannya pada tangan suaminya seraya berkata: “Aku tak dapat tidur sebelum engkau ridha.” (HR. An-Nasai dalam Isyratun Nisa no. 257. Silsilah Al-Ahadits Ash Shahihah, Asy- Syaikh Al Albani rahimahullah, no. 287)
2. Melayani suaminya (berkhidmat kepada suami) seperti menyiapkan makan minumnya, tempat tidur, pakaian, dan yang semacamnya.
3. Tidak memberikan Kemaluan nya kecuali kepada suaminya.

Al Quran :
“Perempuan yang berzina dan laki-laki yang berzina, maka deralah tiap-tiap seorang dari keduanya seratus dali dera, dan janganlah belas kasihan kepada keduanya mencegah kamu untuk (menjalankan) agama Allah, jika kamu beriman kepada Allah, dan hari akhirat, dan hendaklah (pelaksanaan) hukuman mereka disaksikan oleh sekumpulan orang-orang yang beriman. (an-Nuur: 2-3).
“Dan janganlah kamu mendekati zina; sesungguhnya zina itu adalah suatu perbuatan yang keji. Dan suatu jalan yang buruk,” (al-Israa’: 32)